“What a slut time is. She screws everybody”.

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I decided to read the book, “The Fault In Our Stars”, by John Green, before I heard all of the hype from the movie.  I know this book has been traveling around the Young Adult genre for a while now, and I wanted to experience the book before the movie.

I was sitting in my car waiting for my son to get out of school, and decided to do some reading while I waited.  I read this quote from a fictional author that the characters in the book are having email correspondence with and it stopped me in my tracks:

“What a slut time is. She screws everybody” ~ Peter Von Houten (John Green)

It was a unique way to describe time.  Once you get past any problem you may have with the vulgarity of the quote, you see the core of its meaning: time, offers itself to everyone freely, but eventually it passes before you are ready for it to be done.

Like the time that you had that to-do list that took up two notebook pages, and you put it off to get done in that one day, one twenty-four hour time frame (which technically is seventeen if you take seven hours off for sleep).  When you finally reach the point of exhaustion and your list is not complete, what do you say? “There is just not enough time in the day!”

Or the time that you are sitting at the dinner table with your family having dinner, recalling the days highs and lows.  You look over at your oldest (or sometimes, only) child and think to yourself, “Where does the time go?!  I was just rocking him/her to sleep!”, as you listen to them talk about text messages and school dances.

What about the time that you thought to yourself, “I should really call my friend/mother/brother/sister/child today.”  Half of the day goes by and you don’t pick up the phone to make that call you thought about in the morning. You think, “I will call the first thing in the morning.  First thing!”  That turns into another forty-eight hours and you still didn’t call.

And the unfortunate moment when you are sitting by the hospital bed of your parent/sibling/friend/family member/spouse/child, thinking about all the good times you had together and damning all the times spent wasted on bickering, fighting, arguing.  You wished you could get that time back.

Why don’t you have enough time?!

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Maybe time should not be to blame.  Sure, it puts itself out for everyone to use, as a slut would.  But does time screw us or do we screw time?  What if we nurtured our relationship with time and saw every single second as the precious commodity it is.  What if you took a few minutes to call that friend/parent/child/sibling/family member and say hello and you love them on that minute you thought of them?  What if instead of taking the time to nitpick the hell out of one another, you saw that every person has their own set of ideals and ways to live their life, and you will not always agree. That is what makes us individuals, after all!    What if you let the dishes sit in the sink and sat on the floor and played with your toddler/had a conversation with your teenager/held hands with your spouse?

I think that time gets a bad wrap.  I think time is the most precious thing that you are given in this world.  Stop blaming time and take control of your precious seconds.

How will you take control of your time today?

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