I have not been blogging on consecutive days, but I love this challenge put out by Sharons Book Nook. I intend to finish 🙂 So here we go!
Day 8: Three things I want to say to three different people right now
- To My Husband: How lucky am I to have married such a wonderful man like you? How fortunate am I to have a man for whom I have known for more than half of my life, who knows the ins and outs, the ugly and the beautiful, the sad and the happy of me and still stays to accept and love me? You are the only person walking this earth who knows every single molecule of me. To be cliché, I married my best friend, literally. You are a strong and caring man who sets a wonderful example for our son. Even if he grows up to be a quarter of the man who you are, he will be amazing. (But we both know that he is more of you than that!) I am so thankful that, through all of these passing years, you have remained true to who you are, no matter what strife that the world has thrown at you. You make me want to be a better person every single day. I adore you, babe.
- To My In-Laws: I love and care for you all more than you realize. When I married Dan, I was excited to be gaining a family of people who seemed so close to one another. Unfortunately, my baggage affected me, and that manifested in how I treated some of you. There is nothing else I can say in this situation except I love you guys. Sincerely.
- To My Son: Buddy, you taught me that the world does not work exactly how you hope it does, and that every winding road life takes us on is worth the ride. You are an intelligent, caring, eclectic young man who this world is fortunate to have in its lifetime. Your ability to adapt to life in the face of your struggles leaves me awestruck. You are much more than your struggles, and they do not define you. You are so smart, bud! You make me shiver at the math you understand (I think we both know that it would make me cry!) You are an amazing young man who I learn from every single day. I am so lucky that God thought I was the best mom for you. I love you very much!!
Day 9: Two Recent Pictures
These are my beautiful doggies, Mika and Shae. They are so loving and fun! They really do make our house a home 🙂
And this is me – a recent picture of me. This was taken a couple of weeks ago – a work selfie. Now, usually I don’t like pics of me, but this one I actually like! So, hell friends!!
I am behind having missed yesterday, so I decided to double up this morning! Turn offs and guilty pleasures are on tap for today, thanks to this challenge put on by Sharon’s Book Nook!
Day 6: Five Turn Offs
- People with negative/bad attitudes – I try to live my life in a positive way, and when I am around people who constantly complain, it really drags me down. Also, when people simply have a piss-poor attitude in general, I find it difficult to be around them. I am not saying that I am above having bad days, because I have them more than I would like to admit. I am talking about those that it is ingrained in: sucking teeth at stupid things, rolling eyes and dismissive attitude when things are not exactly how they think they should be. I simply will not be associated with people like that anymore.
- Ignorant/Helpless People – I am not referring to those that have valid problems in life. Mental illness is something that I live with in a small capacity, and I know those that simply cannot help themselves because it is clinical. I get that. I am talking about those that CHOOSE to have others do everything for them. Lazy people. The whiners that expect hand-ups when they are perfectly capable of getting up and walking across the room to get something themselves. Also, I cannot take people who choose to stay narrow-minded and not entertain other sides of stories or situations. I am not saying that everyone should believe the same thing, I am saying just be open to listening to someone else without placing judgement. There is WAY too much of that going on in this country.
- Sheep – No, I am not talking about the animal. I am talking about those that follow a trend, rumor or otherwise, simply for the sake of fitting in and staying mainstream.
- Fake Celebrity – Kardashians, Hiltons, any reality show “celebrity” – what a false message they send young people about life. I have a difficult time thinking that Snookie has published TWO books. Since when is the television channel, TLC a reality TV station?
- Politics – Can we agree as a people who no matter who we vote in, they are going to suck at something and thrive at something? Why are we divided like we are? Vote for the least offensive and move on. If you don’t like it, run for office. It is as simple as that. I HATE political attack ads & people on their high horses.
Day 7: Four Guilty Pleasures
The TV Show, Dallas – I was so excited when TNT revamped this ’80’s television drama, and was equally devastated when I found out that they cancelled it after three seasons. Not only is the eye-candy good, but it was rich with nonsense and drama.
Grey’s Anatomy – Now, I did not begin watching this television show in real-time until a couple of years ago. I ended up catching up on it through a Lifetime marathon from beginning to end (at the time). Now, no one gets between me and my TV on Thursday Nights.
Carbs – Oh yes! That evil food product that everyone avoids! I love breads, chips, cheeses etc. Until the day that I am told that it is life or death to stop consuming this heavenly group of organic compounds, I will enjoy every single bite!
Music – Now normally this would not be considered a “guilty pleasure”, but I listen to EVERYTHING. You can walk into my office and hear anything from P!nk, Britney Spears, Foo Fighters, Barry Manilow, Metallica, Jay-Z, etc. I like to say that I have musical multiple personality disorder lol I enjoy it all!! So if you hear me singing Sweet Caroline, just join in 🙂
Today, I have to list how to win my heart, but I find this difficult because my heart has been taken for more than half my life by my husband. But, I suppose that winning my heart can be a friend, co-worker etc. as well. So, to complete today’s challenge from Sharon’s Book Nook,:
Day 5: Six Ways to Win My Heart
- HONESTY. – I cannot express enough to the people in my life, and those that are incoming, that honesty is the best policy with me, even when it hurts. I am the type of person that will get over the sting of a harsh truth faster than an appeasing lie. Sure, a debate may ensue, or questions may be asked, but I can do nothing but respect honesty from someone.
- SENSE OF HUMOR – I love to laugh, and I crack jokes all the time (that are 95% of the time not funny to others). So, if you can make me laugh, you are in! LOL
- HAVE A STRONG SENSE OF SELF – It is so attractive to me to see someone sure of themselves without being arrogant. That is a fine line to walk, but it can be done.
- RECIPROCATION – When I care and love someone, I do it with my whole heart. I am a passionate person. When I am your friend or on your side, I am THERE. You can count on me for anything. With that, I would like to think that someone would care enough to reach out from time to time to me as well. I am not asking for exact replication, I would just like to know that you care about me as much as I care about you.
- RANDOM MESSAGES – Little messages or hello’s during busy times lets me know that I am an important piece in your life. Texting is an amazing thing! I know people are busy, so am I. But when people pop in my head, or if I find myself thinking about someone, I reach out and let them know.
- BE PASSIONATE ABOUT SOME THING – Nothing is more intriguing to me than someone who is passionate about something – your job, education, politics, life. ANYTHING. A person like this is someone I can learn something from. I like that.
So, do you think it is difficult to win my heart?
This is one of the most difficult of Sharon’s Book Nook 10 Day Blogging Challenge. I love all of my posts, so to choose seven is difficult. But, I did it! I give to you:
Day 4: 7 Favorite Blog Posts from My Blog
A Very Pinterest Housewarming Party
I had such a blast planning and entertaining for the first time in my new home, I had to choose this as one of my favorites! There are great links to quick and easy recipes that can be used for up and coming holiday parties!
New Poem! Silence
As of this post, I had not written a new poem in a couple of years. To write one and then share it is a big deal. This is definitely one of my favorite posts!
Casting Off My Shackles
Depression is a bitch.
Pinned It, Did It Wednesday – Coffee Station
This, by far, is my favorite Pinned It, Did It! I love my coffee station!
Battle At The Family Reunion
I took the Blogging University, Blogging 101 class, and in this post I had to post original work using dialogue. I am uncomfortable with it, but I think I did a pretty good job here!
My Love Affair With Writing
This post reminds me why I love to write, and why I need to continue!
Any time I can write about my home town is a good post. This is my love letter to Buffalo.
I have been very behind in posting lately, and that is simply because I am not taking the time to do it. But, I am hoping by taking part in the challenge that Sharon’s Book Nook put out a few days ago kicks me in the butt and gets me going! I am starting this challenge a couple of days behind, but better late than never, I say! So, I give to you:
DAY 1: 10 THINGS ABOUT ME
- I love to read and write. – Lately, it seems as though I enjoy the idea of these things more than partaking in them, but they are a part of me regardless. They always have been. I still have steno notebooks full of poems, beginnings of short stories, and ideas just waiting for cultivation. My GoodReads account has more books listed that I want to read than I have years left in my life, and I love it. It is just making these things that are such a big desire for me, a part of my every day routine. I am getting there!
- I am more comfortable in my own skin as I approach 40 yrs old than I have ever been. – You hear women talk about finding that sweet spot in life; that age when you accept yourself, flaws and all, regardless of trends or popular opinion. I notice that I am comfortable with myself, even though I am over weight and not aesthetically pleasing to most. I don’t care. I love me, quirks, rolls and all, and no one can tell me to believe otherwise. There is a sense of calmness in my inner voice now, even though the thought of hitting 40 still is terrifying.
- I am at peace with relationships with people who did not live up to my expectations. – Isn’t that the one thing that can ruin a relationship? You expect people to act a certain way (because you do), and choose to do certain things (because, who does anything else?!). Holding people to your own expectation of what is “right” is a sure-fire way to kill any friendship or relationship. I learned that I should enjoy the differences in people, and let people make their own mistakes and live how they choose, without me placing judgement on them for not doing things how I would. Believe me, this is an ongoing lesson I am learning, but the major relationships in my life are more peaceful to me now. I may have let some of these relationships go for my own sanity, but I am at peace and still respect and love those people for who they are.
- I love to cook. – In fact, when I began this blog, I would post recipes and those would get the largest viewings for that particular week. I still may post recipes, but not as regularly. I love cooking for large groups and my small family. I am always on the hunt for new things to try!
- I am a passionate person. – When I feel something, I feel it BIG and, sometimes, my reactions are just as large. So, if I am angry, happy, silly – I can be larger than life. I am off-putting to some because they do not know how to take me, and that is all right. There are those that cannot handle me, and there are those that would not have me any other way. That is just fine with me. It took me a while to learn that I do not have to adjust who I am to suit other people. I figure, I am respectful of people around me, so there. I do have a tendency to speak without filter, and I have hurt some people I love in the process, but that is how I learned to dial it back a little bit to be respectful. Once cannot be a 10 all the time!
- I am a recovering reality tv-aholic – Housewives of New Jersey, Atlanta and New York – I loved them all! The crazy, the drama, the lavishness. I would watch marathons and wait with much anticipation for the winner of the latest verbal altercation. I decided to give up on reality tv for a New Year’s resolution. This has got to be the one and only resolution I am following through with! Now that I am distancing myself from these programs, I notice just how ridiculous they are. These are people, regular people, setting up drama in their lives for the sake of a pay check. Life is way too short for that, and my time is too precious to spend it watching women act like bullies toward one another, instead of helping one another up. Those shows are fiction in spite of their “reality” title. Just look at the issues some are having with the law. That is about as real as it gets.
- I am completely, 100% in love with my husband. – He is my rock and my best friend. He is the only person on this earth who knows every inch of me, inside and out, and loves me no matter what. We have been friends for 25 years (more than half our lives!), together for 17 years, and married for 15 years. Highs, lows, laughter, tears – we have seen them all, learned from them and moved on. Without a doubt, he is one of the most important people in my life. He is my #1.
- My #2 is my son. – My soon-to-be 14yr old ball of hormones and attitude. I have learned so much about life from him. When I was blessed with him in November of 2000, I thought I had our lives planned to the letter. My boy showed me not to plan, and take things one step at a time. Even though he did not partake in the life I planned for us, he took me down a road of discovery, understanding and taught me patience. My son has helped make me a better person. And you think that YOU are doing the teaching as a parent; not the case. He is my heart.
- I love doing things for others. – I love to make others smile. Sometimes I take it too far (see #5), but when I love, I love big. Never underestimate that one small gesture that can change a persons day!
- I am not perfect. – I may speak about my ideals and argue points about certain topics, but please do not take me as someone who thinks she is on a pedestal looking down on everyone. All of my beliefs boil down to one simple truth: treat people how you want to be treated. The golden rule. I get angry for others. I get angry for the lack of common sense in this world. But in no way does that mean I feel as though I am better than anyone else. I am a person, flawed, just like you.
Well, you may have guessed it, (if you are familiar with it), but I signed up for NaNoWriMo 2014 today. If you are not sure what that is, let me explain.
Starting November 1st and ending November 30th, this challenge has you writing an entire novel (50K words). You write each and every day, and then submit it to win? I am still new to the process and the rules (it is my first time!), but I am going to take the challenge! Click here to check out the NaNoWriMo website.
As I sit here and wonder why the hell I am doing this to myself, I am running possible plots and ideas through my head. I will write topic after topic until one sticks, and I know that will take weeks.
So, are YOU participating in NaNoWriMo this year? Have you been selected as a winner? Any tips?
I decided to write a new one this morning! I am not sure if this is good, but it is something! Yay!
enveloping me in nothingness
internally I scream for peace.
Air refreshing my lungs.
Sadness floating away into the muted atmosphere.
I have recovered.
~ DH 7/14/14